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Showing posts with label God's love. Show all posts

Skewed Ideas About God's Love

Posted in By Patty Kennedy 0 comments



I love this quote by Andrew Murray (see graphic at right). We can never be good enough or clever enough to earn God's love. He loves us because we are His children, created in His image.

I confess I have struggled with skewed ideas about the love of God. It is so stupendous that simple-minded human beings have difficulty wrapping our minds around it. Particularly if you have been raised by harsh parents who only expressed love if you "performed" to their liking, embracing the Father heart of God is a big stretch.

Over the years, I have talked with dear brothers and sisters in Christ who have expressed some of the same struggles, which is why I wanted to blog about this subject. I hope to clear up some common misconceptions about the love of God.

Someone very dear to me (I'll call her Jill) struggled with infertility for years. She believed God was punishing her because she had an abortion as a teenager.

Another sister confessed she was scared to death to give herself entirely to God, for fear that something dreadful would happen. She had recently come to me for mentoring and was making progress in her Christian life, when suddenly her beloved grandfather died. She was convinced that his passing was a direct result of her walking in newness of life.

These are very real concerns. In a society where Christians condemn abortion and show little compassion to women who have experienced it, no wonder Jill thought her infertility was a curse from God. After I helped her to see that her theology was faulty, I prayed for God to open her womb. Eventually Jill was able to conceive, and gave birth to a son. To show Jill how much He loved her, God added another little bonus -- her son was born on the anniversary of the abortion. A calendar date that once brought condemnation is now a cause for celebration.

The fear about giving oneself entirely to God is a common one. People seem to be convinced that one of two things will happen:
  • something terrible will happen to someone they love
  • God will ask them to move to some horrible place to be a missionary
Where does this theology come from? Well, from a lack of love on our part, for one thing. God loves us so passionately that He sent Jesus to die for our sins. And Jesus says whoever wants to be His disciple must take up their cross daily and follow Him (Luke 9:23). That's where we bristle, I think. We read that and groan, and wonder what our "cross" will look like.

The problem with all this is our FOCUS, my friends. All of these fears are about US, and saving our own hides. When our thoughts take this kind of trajectory, it is clear that we are not in a good place with God.

Jeremiah 31:3 says God loves us with an everlasting love. Zephaniah 3:17 says God will quiet us with His love, and rejoice over us with singing! One of my favorites is 1 John 3:1: "See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!" If we truly believed God loves us like this, we would stop fretting about our own sorry selves.

True love for God is expressed in a zeal that wants to spend every waking minute in His presence -- and that is our birthright as His children! We can have unbroken communion with Him, constantly pouring out our hearts in thanksgiving and praise and worship. The Holy Spirit will guide us into all truth (John 16:13), and help us discern God's will for our lives. Micah 6:8 says it very simply: "What does the Lord require of you, but to act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God?"

For some, following Jesus may mean going to a dangerous mission field. For all of us, it will mean suffering at times. Jesus said we will experience tribulation in this world (John 16:33). John 15:20 says, "A servant is not greater than his Master; if they persecuted Me, they will persecute you also." Salvation is a free gift, but following Jesus comes at great cost.

God's love for us is not in question here -- it's our love for God. We are selfish and want to live comfortable, convenient lives. When we truly understand His love for us, we will love Him selflessly in return, and every day offer our bodies as living sacrifices (Romans 12:1). His love for us will compel us to be emptied of ourselves so that we can pour out our lives in service to Him. Everything we do, when done joyfully unto Him, can be a sacrifice of praise!

"There is no fear in love; instead, perfect love drives out fear" (1 John 4:18). We will have no fear when we are secure in God's love for us, and love Him with all our hearts.









God the Manipulator?

Posted in By Nick Smith 0 comments


Alright, I’m going to warn you up front that this post is going to be a little deep.  Prepare yourself.

Several weeks ago, I posted a question on my Facebook page that I’ve been thinking a lot about lately.  The question was this: Can tough love and unconditional love co-exist or are they mutually exclusive?

The consensus was that they can and do co-exist.  A common example was the relationship between parents and their children.  A mother can love her children no matter what they do and still show them tough love in order to correct bad behavior.  In fact, the two types of love are entwined because the mother would not bother being hard on her children if she did not want the best for them.

This makes total sense to me, but I still felt like there was more at the core of this question, so I played devil’s advocate.  I asked, “If we change how we express love to someone based solely on their choices and/or behavior, isn’t that the definition of conditional?”

The basic response to this was that conditional love is not defined as HOW we love someone, but WHETHER we love them.  A child’s behavior may cause a mother to change how she demonstrates love to him (i.e. she might need to show tough love in order to correct the behavior), but she never stops loving him.

This caused me to think about the perspective of the person who receives tough love.  Wouldn’t they see it as a form of conditional love?  Maybe even as manipulation?  If you have always shown your love to them in a certain way, and then their choices cause you to act differently, it would seem to them that you require them to behave a certain way in order to receive the same level of love.  From their perspective, it might seem that you are imposing your own personal belief system on them.

At this point, I’m departing from the mother and her children comparison.  I’m thinking about two adult friends.  If your best friend started acting differently towards you because he didn’t agree with some choices you’ve been making (because he feels those choices are not in your best interest), would you feel manipulated or would you feel loved?  What if you disagreed with his assessment about whether it was in your best interest?

I think that how we feel about this issue deeply affects our relationship with God.  God also shows both tough love and unconditional love.  When He shows tough love because you have sinned, do you feel loved or manipulated?

I’ve thought about this a lot lately and I think I’ve finally come to a conclusion.  Whether you feel loved or manipulated comes down to one issue – how much you trust the judgment of the person demonstrating tough love.

When we are children, we trust the judgment of our parents.  We don’t always like it, but we trust it.  And when we’re adults, we have to decide whose judgment to trust when our judgment is in conflict with that of our friends or family.

The same is true of our relationship with God.  When our choices conflict with God’s judgment, we have to decide whether to trust ourselves or God.  When we trust ourselves, we see God as a manipulator, offering our withholding love based on our actions.  But when we trust God over ourselves, we see the truth that God loves us the same throughout; He just wants what is best for us and He knows better than we do what the best is.

"Listen to advice and accept correction, and in the end you will be wise." -- Proverbs 19:20

New kid in town.....

Posted in By brigitte 1 comments

Hello people! I am so pumped to join this amazing group of Christian bloggers at Hammer on Anvil. These Jesus-loving folks have entertained, challenged, and comforted me through each and every post I've read. I love Jesus-people. And I love Jesus, people! You will get to know a lot more about me (like it or not) with every post. Hopefully, I don't scare anyone off with my sarcasm, frankness, or cussing rebel ways. I promised not to cuss. Not even the 'nice' cuss words. Christians and their rules (said with a shaking fist)!

Without further ado...

Living purposefully

My pastor began this past Sunday’s service by leading us in a time of reflection and prayer. He prompted us to reflect on God’s love for us…His insurmountable love. For. us. (Jo 3:16) As we let those thoughts wash over us to really penetrate our hearts, the Spirit whispered to me, “your family.”

Oh yes, Lord. My family. I can love others well…as long as they aren’t my family. We are a bit dysfunctional to say the least... probably a lot like yours. Relationships and communication aren’t what they should be. What is more disturbing is that there are several members of my immediate family who have not accepted the love freely given by the Lord Jesus Christ.

So as I sat in church being completely consumed by the flood that is God’s love for me…my family sat in darkness. Oh my soul.

Purposeful. Intentional. Prayerful. These are the words that pounded in my head. What am I doing to love my family? We barely speak –which, if you didn't know, makes it super difficult to share the Gospel. Seriously, not even a facebook poke or emoticon text is sent their way to let them know I truly care (sarcasm.You'll catch on). I resolved right there at God’s altar that this would be a year of intentionality with my family relationships. A new year’s resolution, if you will. No, those never work. Lord knows I still have this cussing problem. I'm pretty sure this will involve surrender and humility. Always does.

Who has God put in your life that lives in darkness? Take that first step to building a healthy relationship with them…PRAY! Apart from God we can accomplish nothing. In Him, ALL things are possible.

“We love because he first loved us. If anyone says, “I love God,” yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. And he has given us this command: Whoever loves God must also love his brother.” 1 John 4:19-21 NIV84
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